When our doctor first told us that we would need to find a surrogate to help us have the child of our dreams, it was very hard to wrap our heads around it. Another woman, a stranger, would carry our most precious thing in the world? How could we possibly trust someone to do this for us? And, most importantly, who are these women who become surrogates? I've found out... surrogates are angels! Period. I can say it with conviction because my husband and I are finally parents thanks to our amazing surrogate Melissa.
We felt a connection with Melissa and her husband from day one. But, this connection only grew throughout the process and pregnancy. I can say that I truly love my surrogate, her husband, her two kids and her parents. And that my husband and my mom feel the same way. They have become part of our family.
In the delivery room, our surrogate’s husband turned to my husband and said that he cannot wait to be at our daughter’s wedding. And, he will definitely be there! And hopefully have a dance with her too.
My mom wrote a poem for our angel surrogate that I wanted to share:
Angels really do exist on earth
We finally have the proof
Because of you, Melissa
A baby will soon be under our family’s roof
After 3 years of inseminations and IVF
Numerous procedures, disappointments and tears
A miracle has actually happened
We can finally switch our gears
Your gift to our family is just priceless
Your generosity is beyond compare
You are filled with goodness and selfless love
These wonderful traits are so very rare
You have made Emily and Gregg so happy
Loving parents they can now be
You opened your amazing heart to us
And embraced us all with your surrogacy
All of our dreams for a baby
Can now come true
This has only happened
Because of you
One person can make such a difference
With one very generous act
Melissa, you are an inspiration to us all
I know this for a fact
Saying “thank you” just doesn’t seem good enough
We are so deeply grateful to you
Happiness and good health is our wish
For you and your beautiful family too!
My husband and I will never be able to thank our surrogate enough for giving us our precious daughter!
Emily Dubin Field, MBA, is the business and client manager at Field Fertility Law, www.fieldfertility.com. Her husband Gregg is the practice’s third party reproductive attorney. Emily and her husband felt a deep calling to help others who are in their shoes and now lend their professional backgrounds to couples creating or growing their families. At Field Fertility, they believe that there is nothing that can make more of a difference in our world then our future children! Emily is a mom thanks to her Reproductive Endocrinologist, IVF, science, their surrogacy agency, their third party reproductive attorney and their incredible surrogate and her family. She is very open about her fertility journey and feels that when you go through something in life then who better than you to do something about it. Emily has her MBA in nonprofit management and has dedicated her career to making a difference in the world. Emily is also a member of the Society of Ethics of Egg Donation and Surrogacy. She can be reached anytime at firstname.lastname@example.org.