We are pleased to announce our official name change, from Find the Best Surrogacy Agency, to Make Families. Making families is the miracle we get to have a small part in every day and we wanted our name to be reflective of that. Looking forward to creating many more miracles with all our Intended Parents, Surrogates, Doctors, Attorneys, and all the other people that come together to help make families.
When our doctor first told us that we would need to find a surrogate to help us have the child of our dreams, it was very hard to wrap our heads around it. Another woman, a stranger, would carry our most precious thing in the world? How could we possibly trust someone to do this for us? And, most importantly, who are these women who become surrogates? I've found out... surrogates are angels! Period. I can say it with conviction because my husband and I are finally parents thanks to our amazing surrogate Melissa.
We felt a connection with Melissa and her husband from day one. But, this connection only grew throughout the process and pregnancy. I can say that I truly love my surrogate, her husband, her two kids and her parents. And that my husband and my mom feel the same way. They have become part of our family.
In the delivery room, our surrogate’s husband turned to my husband and said that he cannot wait to be at our daughter’s wedding. And, he will definitely be there! And hopefully have a dance with her too.
My mom wrote a poem for our angel surrogate that I wanted to share:
Angels really do exist on earth
We finally have the proof
Because of you, Melissa
A baby will soon be under our family’s roof
After 3 years of inseminations and IVF
Numerous procedures, disappointments and tears
A miracle has actually happened
We can finally switch our gears
Your gift to our family is just priceless
Your generosity is beyond compare
You are filled with goodness and selfless love
These wonderful traits are so very rare
You have made Emily and Gregg so happy
Loving parents they can now be
You opened your amazing heart to us
And embraced us all with your surrogacy
All of our dreams for a baby
Can now come true
This has only happened
Because of you
One person can make such a difference
With one very generous act
Melissa, you are an inspiration to us all
I know this for a fact
Saying “thank you” just doesn’t seem good enough
We are so deeply grateful to you
Happiness and good health is our wish
For you and your beautiful family too!
My husband and I will never be able to thank our surrogate enough for giving us our precious daughter!
Emily Dubin Field, MBA, is the business and client manager at Field Fertility Law, www.fieldfertility.com. Her husband Gregg is the practice’s third party reproductive attorney. Emily and her husband felt a deep calling to help others who are in their shoes and now lend their professional backgrounds to couples creating or growing their families. At Field Fertility, they believe that there is nothing that can make more of a difference in our world then our future children! Emily is a mom thanks to her Reproductive Endocrinologist, IVF, science, their surrogacy agency, their third party reproductive attorney and their incredible surrogate and her family. She is very open about her fertility journey and feels that when you go through something in life then who better than you to do something about it. Emily has her MBA in nonprofit management and has dedicated her career to making a difference in the world. Emily is also a member of the Society of Ethics of Egg Donation and Surrogacy. She can be reached anytime at firstname.lastname@example.org.
When I tell people that I work in the surrogacy field, the reaction is always the same. Something along the lines of, "well that's different", followed up with "what a rewarding line of work to be in." I nod in agreement. What they don't know, is HOW rewarding, incredible, all encompassing, and profoundly special this line of work is. I spare most people the emotional long winded monologue about what it feels like hearing the soul jolting happiness intended parents feel when holding their baby for the first time. Or what it's like to watch a surrogate's husband look at her in awe, knowing she was the one that brought this joy and this miracle to a new family. It gives me goosebumps whenever I think of it. I thought I'd write about what it feels like working in the surrogacy field instead so whenever the next person asks, "what's it like working in the surrogacy field?", I can direct them here.
First, some background...I started working in the surrogacy field initially because I loved the idea of helping people become parents. My mom was unable to have a biological child due to an infection she had as only a child which resulted in a hysterectomy. Because of 3 amazing selfless birth mothers, my parents became two of the most amazing parents in the world through adoption. These birth moms made such courageous decisions to give my siblings and I a life they knew they couldn't and we are so grateful to them for that. They are heroes in my opinion. And so is each and every woman who decides to become a surrogate.
My parents were born to be parents. My mom is the most selfless, giving, nurturing woman I have ever met and the thought of her going through life without having the opportunity to give that part of herself to a child and know the joys of parenthood, is devastating. My mom is just like the hundreds of intended parents that I've been fortunate enough to help over the years. So for me, surrogacy is personal.
Surrogacy is of course very different than adoption. One of the major differences is that with gestational surrogacy (which is the only kind of surrogacy arrangement I facilitate) surrogates are implanted with embryos that are biologically related to the intended parents, or a sperm and/or egg donor. But the joy that surrogates bring to a couple who has wanted to have a baby for so long is as profound as the joys an adoptive parent feels when bringing their baby home for the first time. Any woman who gives a part of herself to allow another human being to experience becoming a parent is a true hero. And having the privilege of being able to have even the smallest part in these incredible surrogacy arrangements is a gift. I won't lie and tell you every day is rainbows. Some days are really, really tough. In the world of surrogacy, things don't always go the exact way that everyone hopes it will and it can sometimes take an army of people and professionals to get things on track and keep them that way. But as with most great things, they tend to not come so easy. And the children that are born as a result of surrogacy will be loved with extra doses of intensity as the surrogacy professionals involved, the amazing surrogates, the families, and most importantly the parents know exactly what it took to bring them here. This incredible miracle is the reason that I love, and feel blessed to do the work I get to do.
Welcome to our surrogacy blog! Here you will find information about ALL things surrogacy. We'll talk about the whole surrogacy process, what to expect, what to look for in a surrogacy agency, matching with your intended parents, the medical aspects, relationship with intended parents, legal aspects of surrogacy, and anything and everything else surrogacy related! Have an experience as a surrogate you'd like to share? Tell us! Questions you want to ask about the surrogacy process, ask us! We are devoted to making the surrogacy journey positive, empowering and rewarding for each and every incredible woman who chooses to embark on this amazing journey!
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